Should I Get Closure From a Breakup | Am I wasting my time trying to reconcile?
Closure from a Breakup versus trying to Get Your Ex Back without formal closure.
What is Closure?
We define closure as steps taken to relieve the feelings of rejection, sadness, anger, regret, remorse, and a host of other emotions after a breakup. Typically closure comes from some form of communication with your ex, a breakup coach, friend, or confidant.
Sometimes getting closure is the best step to getting y0ur ex back because it allows both people to clear the air and move on and it takes a huge load off the chests of both ex boyfriend and girlfriend. The reconciliation process actually can begin with closure. However, there is some serious downside for trying to obtain closure from y0ur ex the form of saying things that are hurtful or even worse, receiving hurtful words and sentiments from your ex.
We get calls all the time from clients, new and old, asking us if they are “wasting time” or engaging in “wishful thinking” in terms of getting back with their ex. In other words, should they simply go for closure and move on?
The answer as to the level of closure you are looking to obtain while also wanting to possibly reconcile clearly depends on your situation and several factors:
1) How many times have you tried to contact your ex without a response?
2) How long has the breakup been?
3) How long has your ex been dating a new person and what is the history of the new relationship?
4) What was the reason for the breakup?
5) Does your ex truly know you are over the breakup or have you been open about missing your ex?
6) Will you be able to handle the pressures of open communication?
We will talk to you about your options with getting closure and how it will impact your chances of reconciliation. Some breakups are indeed meant to be and/or incapable of salvaging. When you call us we will review your relationship in detail to go over your unique predicament.
When you call us we will help you decide where you are in your breakup 1-888-666-1871 .
Formal closure and direct communication with your ex may be the best option for you or it may not be as optimal as giving yourself closure and allowing for your ex to contact you first.